While wedding etiquette is much more relaxed than it used to be, many couples still feel that it’s important to follow certain customs on their special day. This is especially true if their ceremony is very traditional, or if their families are particularly fond of these customs.
One of these well-known customs is the offering boutonnieres (buttonholes) and corsages to the wedding party. This will usually include family members such as parents, and the bridesmaids and groomsmen. While matching flowers with bridesmaids and groomsmen outfits should be relatively easy, finding a corsage for both mothers can be trickier. The mother of the bride or groom will likely spend a lot of time and effort choosing her outfit, so finding corsages that can complement their look is key.
Here are some tips for choosing the best wedding corsages for mothers of the bride and groom.
Choosing the right colour
Traditionally, boutonnieres are given to fathers and grandfathers and corsages are given to mothers and grandmothers. As these floral pieces will usually match (or at least coordinate) for the wedding party, choosing a colour that looks good with everyone’s outfits is important. But if you want your corsages and boutonnieres to all be different, that’s just as acceptable. Flowers can be a very personal thing, and you may find that different floral designs work better for your wedding party.
Simple white flowers with green foliage are a good way to keep it timeless, classy and simple. Or bold flowers can be wonderful for expressing personality and making a statement.
Different ways to wear
Giving mothers and grandmothers a corsage is a wonderful gesture and a lovely tradition, but remember that the wearer has to be comfortable. If you want everyone to follow this custom, make sure you offer different ways to wear the corsage. Not everyone has to match, and being able to choose a wrist or pin corsage will give your wedding party an opportunity to have a bit more control over their appearance.
Consider hats and fascinators
When choosing wedding corsages for mothers of the bride and groom, be sure to ask them about their outfits. If they are wearing a hat or fascinator, they may already have a lot going on with their ensemble. In some cases, corsages may not be necessary. If you are accompanying your mother or mother-in-law for dress shopping, you can get an idea together of how a corsage might look. For inspiration, download our free mother of the bride and groom lookbook.
Tradition isn’t for everyone
If you’re still unsure about whether you want wedding corsages for mothers and female family members, remember that tradition isn’t final. You don’t have to follow customs if they make your wedding party uncomfortable, or if it doesn’t fit with your wedding theme.
Some people really dislike wearing corsages as it doesn’t always complement what they’re wearing. Having boutonnieres just for men can be an option, giving female family members a bit more freedom to choose.
It’s also understandable if mothers decide to remove their corsage later in the day, but you should ask everyone to keep them on for the wedding pictures if that’s what you want.